My Go-To Answer to the Big Question

I struggle every time someone new discovers I'm divorced and asks me, "What happened?" A part of me wants to just say, "It's really none of your business," but at the same time, I want people to understand that the failure of my marriage was NOT my fault. That's right, I continue to refuse to take any blame for its demise, and I don't want people secretly imagining up their own twisted stories or judging me. Therefore, I have created a go-to line which pretty much sums up what happened and leaves people shocked enough that they don't ask me any more embarrassing questions: "Why did I get divorced? Oh... well, my ex-husband was aspiring to be like Tiger Woods. And I'm not talking about his golf game." Need I say more, really?

E-Harmony Guy #2

I had my third date tonight with E-harmony Guy #2. We went to a nice little restaurant and ate at the bar. It was an evening filled with good conversation and good wine, and it ended with a sweet little peck on the lips. I'm looking forward to seeing what might come of this... not getting my hopes up for anything long-term (and not even sure I want that right now), but like I said in my last post, he has potential. It's nice to know my daggers won't come out every time I interact with a man, since my faith in them as a whole has been obliterated. Happy Friday night!

35 days into the New Year...

You'll be happy to hear I am no longer sitting on the couch in my pajamas. In fact, almost immediately after writing my last post, I joined e-harmony! No more feeling sorry for myself. Time to move on. Never in my lifetime did I think I would ever join an online dating website, but really, where am I supposed to meet a fine young gentleman as a single mom of two young children? At the grocery store? Sure, I can picture it now... our eyes meet, my heart flutters, and then my son pees his pants and my daughter throws a cookie. Yes, I make a great first impression! Ha ha!

Anyway, my e-harmony subscription has led to four dates so far (with two different men). Both are six years older than me, since the men my age apparently go for women under 30 (I'm 32). I gave the first guy a second date out of pity, and the idea that sometimes it takes time to build chemistry. Needless to say, that did not happen. The second guy has possible potential, so we'll see what happens...

What else have I done with my New Year? Well, I gave up pop and chocolate, which is an impressive feat since I've been addicted to chocolate pretty much since I was born. Also, like everyone else, I'm on a mission to lose 10 pounds, so this week I started the "Cinch" diet, which meant all I could eat for five days was a combination of raspberries, yogurt, eggs, almonds, and spinach. Yum (note sarcasm).

As far as my ex... not missing him at all.

Here's to 2011! Cheers!